Many people grow up hoping that some day they will meet the right person. Some eventually do meet the one they've been looking for after much trial and error. Others are not so fortunate no matter how hard they try. A third group consists of people, who were in the right relationship, but where things did not work out for reasons beyond their control. In other words, a lost opportunity.
People seek to be happy in life. Finding the right person would help to accomplish that. But finding the right person is only one step. After you have found this person, you need to put time and effort in this relationship. A relationship is hard work. It does not take care of itself. You really have to put in the time and effort to make it work.
This is not so easy, because there are many things in life that also demand time and effort. The school could be one example. Your career would be another. If you're pursuing a demanding career, you may not have time left for much else. The requirements and obligations are such that you wind up with very little time to spend with your partner. Overtime and long hours become more norm than exception to get that promotion. Once you're done and back home, you may be too tired for anything else, including your partner. Soon, the time comes when you realize that balancing the two is not possible. This creates a dilemma. Your partner or your career. What's it gonna be? The choice is yours.
You have to choose one or the other. You could decide to spend all the time needed toward your career goals. In the process you neglect your partner. Of course, this will inevitable lead to frictions in your relationship. The alternative is that you let your performance at work or school suffer because you didn't take the time and effort needed. By doing so, you may be endangering the career goals that you've set to accomplish your whole life.
Devoting time on your work will most likely pay off in the long run. An educated person qualifies for better jobs than do the uneducated. The best jobs usually pay better. A good salary allows you to afford many of the finer things in a very material world. But you also risk losing the one, perhaps the only one, person that is right for you. You may never meet someone like that again.
On the other hand, there are no guarantees a relationship will last forever. People change and whatever feelings exist may not last forever. The result could be that you have given up your career for someone with whom you will eventually break up. In the end, you wind up with nothing. It's important that you choose wisely. It's worth remembering that not having money won't necessarily make you happy, but not having money will almost definitely make you unhappy. This is sad to say, but true nonetheless.
Should the time come to go your own separate way, breaking up will not be easy. There is a lot of pain and grief associated with it. It's even harder because you know it could be different. It would be easier to break up if the two of you couldn't get along anymore. That wasn't the case. Even though you wanted to, you just couldn't make it all work. This is hard to swallow. In the back of your mind, you will always remember about what could have been.
Whatever decision is made will depend a lot on what the person values most. You could say it is a tug of war between material and spiritual happiness. Between a happy relationship now and the promise that you will be rewarded in the future for all your hard work. What is clear is that whatever decision you make, you will get hurt either way.
You can question yourself whether you've made the right decision. This is assuming that there is a right decision. You may have regrets afterwards about your former partner. You remember all the good times you've had and all the laughs you've shared. But that's all in the past. Perhaps someday you meet someone to replace your former partner. Or perhaps not. Either way, a decision was made and you cannot change the past. You will have to live with it. You can hope that everything will turn out all right. Take solace in the saying that time heals all wounds. Life goes on.
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